Should I Continue Having My Child Read To Me Daily?

Your 6 year old can read. You’ve been having him or her read to you aloud daily from a popular series of leveled readers. You’re thinking you could drop this from your schedule. After all, your child reads independently daily, choosing books like Frog and Toad. They can read, and they do read, so you’re done, right?

No. 

It’s a good idea to have your 6 year old (or 7, or 8, or 9 year old) continue to read aloud to you daily.

You don’t have to use specific readers, even if evvveryone else is using them. (Is evvveryone else reeeally using them? Um, no.) 

And what you have your child read to you doesn’t have to be long. You can make a lot of headway with short, consistent lessons.

You can have your child read aloud to you from any subject area. In fact, it’s a good idea - a better idea - to have your child read aloud from books in different subject areas, and by different authors, so your child can see a wider variety of words in print and get help from you with how to attack them.

You want to be able to assess what your reader needs next, the next right thing, and by having him or her just read to himself you’re not able to do that. 

Frog and Toad books are wonderful (we have them all), but you need to hear your child read text that increases in complexity over time, text with multisyllabic words, suffixes, sentence variety, etc. Buddy reading is great for this. You read a sentence, your child reads a sentence. Or you can do it any number of ways, the emphasis not being “I’m quizzing you,” but “we’re reading as a team.”

Gemma and I buddy-read her history chapter Monday. Gemma is 8, and has been reading independently for a few years, but she doesn’t love Ambleside Online’s choice of history books. She prefers a well-researched novel that allows the reader to get lost in an individual historical figure’s world. 

Today, we buddy-read This Country of Ours. While Gemma can read chapter books, she can read them because she likes them. If she listens to an Ambleside Online history book, she doesn’t seem to pay as close attention to it as I’d like. I’m sometimes wrong. Recently, I thought she hadn’t been paying attention to a reading, but three days later, when I said, “I don’t think you were listening when Daddy read the previous chapter,” she told back a paragraph from that chapter almost word for word. (Yes, I apologized.)

One of the benefits of buddy reading is that a young reader can get help pronouncing words they understand in context, but don’t use in everyday speech. For example, my 8 year old doesn’t throw around the adjectives “autocratic,” “despotic,” and “tyrannical.” 

Thankfully.

App Schooling

I recently listened to a podcast episode in which the hosts talked about app schooling. The podcast was Homeschool Unrefined, and in this particular episode, moms Maren and Angela discussed using screens in their homeschools.

There was one particular moment that stuck out to me, and that was when Maren and Angela mentioned that one benefit to having children use apps is that moms are then freed up to do other things, things other than teacher things. Administrator things, maintenance and operations things, cafeteria manager things.

Homeschool moms, you run your own schools. Classroom teachers don’t do that. Classroom teachers have principals, office managers, cafeteria staff, custodians, recess, lunch away from their students.

It’s unreasonable for you to believe you should be teaching and running a school from 8 a.m. to 3 p.m. Classroom teachers don’t do that. We also give students work they can do independently. We use that time to work with an individual child, work with a small group, grade, fill out paperwork needed ASAP by administrators, mediate conflicts, console or give pep talks to individual students, prep materials for a hands-on lesson.

Sometimes that independent work time is screen time.

You aren’t failing as a mom if you have your child use an app.

Lost Library Book

I just paid $32.45 to replace a lost library book, and I feel great.

The book was The Lego Adventure Book: Vol. 3, and I’ve looked in all the places it should be, as well as some places it shouldn’t.

I thought about buying a copy on Amazon, because the book is $6 cheaper than the price the library gave me. I would have had to wait for the book to arrive, stress out about whether or not the delivery person was going to go against my delivery instructions and leave it on my porch as a target of opportunity, drive the book to the library, and pay for the processing charge of $7.50.

So I just paid for the book. 

It’s only the second book I’ve ever had to replace. (The first was War and Peace, which I still haven’t finished, but after finding the book I thought was lost, I’m now the owner of my very own copy. I can let it sit on my shelf as a reminder of both my failed attempt at reading a Russian literary classic and my failure at being the type of person who is so organized she couldn’t possibly lose a library book. I, on the other hand, am the type of person who can evidently lose something the size of a microwave.)

My point is $66 is a small price for access to all of the books we’ve borrowed over the past (let’s say) 6 years. That’s less than $1 per month.

And check this out (no pun intended): if I find the Lego book at any time during the next year, I can take it into the library for a refund of the price of the book! No one told me that when I lost War and Peace, so I’m not sure if that’s always been the policy, or if it’s new. Either way, I feel so much better about the book no longer being something I’ll never locate, but a thing I might get to find.